I first truly understood what narcissism really was during my marriage to my now ex-husband. Life was tough, as it often is in these situations. Desperate for help, I began therapy, which gave me the strength to ask my ex to join me for marriage counseling. After a few joint sessions, the counselor moved us to individual sessions. Unsurprisingly, my ex bowed out, and I continued on my own.
For months, I followed the counselor’s advice on setting boundaries and such, all while she gave me small clues about narcissistic behavior. I had no idea how common it was — I thought narcissism was rare, like many do. I went in naively thinking that marriage counseling would fix my marriage and make it into something more “normal.” One phrase in particular she used — “emotionally stunted” — stuck with me. I finally googled it, and realized what she was getting at. When I finally asked if my ex might meet the criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder, the counselor told me I had hit the jackpot.
By then, I was ready to take my life back and move forward with a divorce. My counselor also offered “divorce coaching,” and I realized she had already seen through my ex early on. I credit her with giving me the courage to leave and introducing me to the world of narcissism.
If you’re here, whether you’re just starting to understand narcissism or deep into your own recovery, this forum is a safe, supportive space for you. Please share your story, ask questions, or just say hi. We’re stronger together, and your voice matters.
Welcome — I look forward to hearing from you.
— Jewel
